Parenting can be one of the toughest of jobs, we know that good parenting employs demonstrative love, giving one-to one attention between parent and child; allowing quality time aiding the child’s esteem and development. Equally, a balance of discipline, routine, boundaries and rules should be in place to be followed by both the parents and the children. However, creating an ideal and happy home environment has become very challenging due to the current Corona crisis. With enforced lockdowns households are all together in one space and some routines have gone out the window! Imposed restrictions on extended- family-contact has reduced the normal support that families have to hand; say for example grandparents who would normally baby-sit. When one family member has to stay at home longer or has to stay out of home longer, it can cause the other family members to change their schedule at home to adjust to these commitments, so there are many impacts being felt and this can cause negative consequence to the balance of a happy home.
Parents would benefit themselves and their children if they readjusted their way of living due to the impact of the current crisis, by creating a new set of rules for their households. At first, these rules might seem hard or even impossible to adhere to, but as family members start to see their effect on the whole family’s mental stability and productivity, the rewards will be worth the relatively little effort required.
Assign and respect each family member’s personal space. This not only applies to the children but also the parents. In the normal times, the personal space only needed to be secure enough for a given family member to enjoy their leisure time in, but right now it is the space that they need to be productive in, it is the space where they deal with daily work or school stress and it is the space that has to be created to replace the space that the children used to have at school or outdoors and the space that the working parent used to have at the office.
Keep yourself and the children in touch with the outside world and familiar people. Make sure you and your children facetime with at least one person from the outside world daily. It can help children feel that friends outside the home are at this time with them. Connecting with grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins helps reinforce children’s place in their extended family which has great benefits for the child. As the old saying goes: It takes a village to raise a child.
Forgive more. This is the most important rule, and all agreeing to follow this one rule can make the difference. Forgive yourself and your children for behaviours and failures – stress can bring on short-tempers and family members will sometimes break the rules. In a very intense enclosed space try and cut a bit of slack to one another and being more forgiving can help families to get through this time together in unity.
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